I read a good article today called "anger management" about a women who's husband one day out of the blue just told her he didn't love her and didn't want to be with her. Of course that upset her and she spent a lot of time being bitter and angry about him.
I can definitely relate.
I've been trying really hard to focus on what's positive and the good aspects of my life. Suprisingly it has helped. I still feel resentful and bitter about a lot of things, like what I was put through and how disrespected I felt. Sometimes I resent the fact that my life is boring and all I do is work and take care of baby but then I remember something. That baby is the joy of my life. One little smile from her and a bad day isn't so bad. there's hard times, maybe more then usual, but it's not so bad. I have a beautiful, happy little girl. What more could I want?! I work hard and do my best and I get results from that.. so what if I have to work a little harder? It's not a bad thing.
From her opinion she said that when she would get a negative thought about her ex, she would replace it with a good thought like " I can't control what happens, I can only control how I react." true. I think this is a good method and I'm going to start doing it. I'm a lot better, I'm not as angry and resentful as I once was but I still have my moments but honestly it's pointless and I'm sick of doing. So here's to good thoughts!
my all time favortie positive thought she stated was:
"You have to be willing to give up the life you planned to have the life that's waiting for you"
tay tay, you might not know this, but you sure do come off as a very positive person! and i know you have been through A LOT in the last year.. a lot of things you didn't deserve to go through, but you're ending your year in such a positive place. and you have the cutest baby girl ever to thank for that! stick with her and everything else will fall into place.
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