what I learned today

today was an alright day, I made it to my first class to find out that all of my classes were canceled on Monday. Which is a real good thing because I didn't go! I just didn't want to deal with the weather and the ice and the snow, so I opted out. I was all sorts of worried about all of my assignments due that day but since SLCC canceled classes until 11:00 nothing was due until today! good for me! and plus the cute boy in that class talked to me :) but the cute boy in my other class didn't talk to me :( but granted I was asleep the whole time. well in my last class we had a discussion paper due (which I actually did on time, technically not since it was due Monday lol) but the discussion was about marriage. Now I'm not married or anything but from an onlooker I have my opinions. the main point of the discussion was to talk about two types of marriages and divorces. there was covenant marriage and no fault marriage. covenant marriage would require pre marital counseling and if you were to get divorced you would have to wait 2-3 years and take counseling. the only way to get out right away is if it involves 1. abuse 2. adultery 3. your spouse was convicted of a crime that included jail time. The only problem is, if you spouse doesn't want a divorce, you can't get divorced. Now no fault marriage is for if you get divorced, you can just say its no ones fault. and end it right then and there. the problem with that is, well then whats the value of marriage. Plus I like that we think of divorce when we get married. Its actually kind of sad. marriage just isn't what it once was. Its taken for granted and people don't value it as much (which makes me wonder why we won't let gays marry since we treat marriage like its another walk in the park) People just get married to get married and no one really bothers to get to know one another or really think about the consequences of marriage. marriage is suppose to tie you together with same person for life. and in some cases all eternity. So why is it being treated so casually? People just think about now and they don't realize that your going to have to deal with this person forever. Plus people change over time, and you have to realize that the person you married won't be that way forever. everything in life is a phase, your constantly growing and changing and people need to know that. What if the things you liked about the person you married change later on? You have to consider that and realize that it could happen. my teacher said life is a process and if your not constantly fixing things, then what? people just need to think before they marry and also try and fix what broken in a marriage instead of calling it quits. I'm no expert but from what I have observed this is how I feel. I know that I'm not going to rush into a marriage with the first guy that I think I love because I want to know that I love him. I'll wait as long as it takes to find my husband although I'm pretty sure I'm an old maid compared to people in my high school. a lot of them have gotten divorces already which is crazy! I just want to take my time and be sure but that's just me.